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There is a much richer experience available to you than just building yet another productivity habit

A man looks in the mirror and sees himself as a king.
Image by mohamed Hassan from Pixabay

When you feel angry for seemingly no reason, it’s not because you’re a bad person. More likely, it’s a reflection of your past experience. The same goes for jealousy, laziness, sluggishness, and all the other feelings that stop you from loving yourself.

To really see this for yourself requires a…

Building self-awareness resembles building a house. Here’s how to find the bricks, cement, tools, and architectural design to construct one that’s uniquely yours

Image of a self-awareness house
All illustrations by the author (using Creative Commons graphics from Pixabay).

Self-awareness is such a complex idea. We all want to improve it, but many find it hard to unpack the concept. What does it mean to be self-aware?

Over the past few years, I’ve explored this question from many angles. At first, self-awareness seemed to be a primarily spiritual endeavor…

Teaching what you need to learn can have immense value for the world

Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels

I recently came to terms with this:

If you’re doing something for the first time, you won’t feel ready for it. That’s impossible.

How can you feel confident about leading a workshop if you’ve never done it before? Confidence is an aftereffect of experience — not a prerequisite to it.

True growth isn’t about trying to fit your experience into a narrowly defined box

Author enjoying breakfast in the Welsh countryside and learning to embrace “full catastrophe living.” Photo by Marcin Karpowicz.

When you decide to consciously pursue personal growth, you may eliminate things from your life. You get selective about your experience so you can better understand yourself.

A smaller number of stimuli helps regain clarity.

You engage in productivity systems by eliminating distractions. You cut out (or minimize) certain relationships…

My first tandem cycling tour reminded me about this

Author with the tandem, photographed by the one and only Marcin Karpowicz

Both bloggers and travelers are storytellers. They just function in two different spaces.

I’ve been both and let me tell you that people seem way fonder of the traveler type. As I recently crossed the UK on a tandem with M, I saw this as clearly as ever.

During this…

Connecting deeply with those closest to us is often the hardest — here’s how to make it happen

Cartoon of potatoes sitting on a couch together, one suggests playing a game.
For some reason, creepy colorful potatoes seemed like a good way to illustrate what Authentic Relating is all about. I hope you enjoy them. All illustrations by the author.

Since I can remember, I craved more connection than I knew how to create.

As a school kid, I considered myself shy and awkward. I was that geek you’d copy your homework from — but not have much fun hanging out with.

The awkwardness continued through teenagehood and into my…

Yet, more people than ever focus on churning out the latter

With such a workstation, people have the power to influence society. The question is, how are they using it? Photo by Nubelson Fernandes on Unsplash

I thought that being a content creator would grant me a life free from conformity. Ironically, it’s done the opposite.

The concept of “creator” hints at the freedom of expression. But, when prefaced with “content,” that changes. Creating content, by definition, means filling up a pre-existing container. …

Marta Brzosko

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