Dec 8, 2022Member-onlyYour Pocket Guide to Authentic RelatingHow to stop censoring your feelings and bring your full self into your relationships — What do you feel when you hear the word “authenticity”? Some people freak out. They think that to “be authentic” means to show your rawest feelings, whether or not you’re up for it. Other people cringe. “Authenticity” has become such an overused word in the personal growth niche. “Being your…Relationships12 min readRelationships12 min read
Dec 1, 2022Member-only3 Hard Things I’ll Probably Never Stop DoingWhy you need to pick your challenges to stay sane — A few days ago, I jumped on Medium’s offer to get 50% off the annual membership. I stopped paying the subscription earlier this year when I was looking for ways to save money. But a year of reading for $25? No brainer. …Running5 min readRunning5 min read
Jun 2, 2022Member-onlyThe Yin Way to Learn and GrowMy comeback piece after 8 months away from Medium — The last article I published on Medium, September 23, 2021, already felt forced. I wrote it after the memorable summer, when I decided to ditch the online writing career I’d been pursuing for four years and find a job. I was sick of writing articles to match headlines people would…Learning4 min readLearning4 min read
Published in Self-Awareness Community·Sep 23, 2021Member-onlyHow to Hold Your First Personal Development Workshop Without Feeling Like a FraudTeaching what you need to learn can have immense value for the world — I recently came to terms with this: If you’re doing something for the first time, you won’t feel ready for it. That’s impossible. How can you feel confident about leading a workshop if you’ve never done it before? Confidence is an aftereffect of experience — not a prerequisite to it. …Personal Development7 min readPersonal Development7 min read
Published in Self-Awareness Community·Sep 17, 2021Member-onlyPersonal Growth Is the Art of Embracing the “Full Catastrophe”True growth isn’t about trying to fit your experience into a narrowly defined box — When you decide to consciously pursue personal growth, you may eliminate things from your life. You get selective about your experience so you can better understand yourself. A smaller number of stimuli helps regain clarity. You engage in productivity systems by eliminating distractions. You cut out (or minimize) certain relationships…Self5 min readSelf5 min read
Published in Mind Cafe·Sep 11, 2021Member-onlyIf You Want to Fulfill Your Potential, Build a Secure Base FirstOur culture puts self-actualization on its head. — A while ago, my friend posted this poll on Twitter.Personal Growth5 min readPersonal Growth5 min read
Sep 10, 2021Member-onlyWhy People Love TravelersMy first tandem cycling tour reminded me about this — Both bloggers and travelers are storytellers. They just function in two different spaces. I’ve been both and let me tell you that people seem way fonder of the traveler type. As I recently crossed the UK on a tandem with M, I saw this as clearly as ever. During this…Travel5 min readTravel5 min read
Aug 9, 2021Member-onlyGetting The COVID Vaccine Made Me Feel Like I’m ContaminatedNot getting it would have made me feel like I’m a selfish elitist — What do you do when you have no clue what to believe — and, you can’t see any way of deciding how to choose what to believe in? What do you do when, presented with two options, you have no idea which one will keep you safe? I know that…Society4 min readSociety4 min read
Published in Better Humans·Aug 9, 2021Member-only5 Low-Stakes Relational Games To Deepen Connection With Your Loved OnesConnecting deeply with those closest to us is often the hardest — here’s how to make it happen — Since I can remember, I craved more connection than I knew how to create. As a school kid, I considered myself shy and awkward. I was that geek you’d copy your homework from — but not have much fun hanging out with. The awkwardness continued through teenagehood and into my…Relationships18 min readRelationships18 min read
Jul 29, 2021Member-onlyWe Need Art More Than We Need “Content”Yet, more people than ever focus on churning out the latter — I thought that being a content creator would grant me a life free from conformity. Ironically, it’s done the opposite. The concept of “creator” hints at the freedom of expression. But, when prefaced with “content,” that changes. Creating content, by definition, means filling up a pre-existing container. …Art4 min readArt4 min read
