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If You Want Better Relationships, Don’t Just Listen
Make sure you *hear* the other person.
I’m pretty sure you already know what I’m going to tell you. You heard it a million times before. It’s simple.
But I’m going to say it again anyway — with a little twist.
I’m going to say it because you probably still don’t do it enough. That’s why your relationships with friends, family or your partner are not quite as rewarding as they could be.
If only you could implement this advice, rather than just reading about it, everything would be different. And I’m sure you can. It’s not complicated. It just takes practice.
To improve our lives, we often think we need to do more. Form new habits. Go the extra mile. But, as Nir Eyal reminds us:
“I discovered that living the life we want requires not only doing the right things, it also requires that we stop doing the wrong things that take us off-track.”
When comes to relationships, what we could all cut down on is talking. This would give us more space for listening. Because that’s what your relationship probably needs more of:
Listening to the other person in a way that allows you to hear them.
