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This Is What It Took To See Myself As A Writer
An ongoing process of updating my beliefs.
We tend to think that what happens to us is our unique experience. That no one can possibly understand how we feel. It is especially in the moments of despair and sadness that we fall for this perceptual trap.
We believe that we are all alone.
This is, of course, only our perception of things. I have re-discovered many times that my most “challenging feelings”, “mental fixations”, “personality issues” or “internal conflicts” that I thought I owned, often match the experiences of other people.
In these moments of connection, I understand that I am never alone.
People around are going through similar — sometimes essentially the same — experiences. The reason why we think what happens to us is unique is that we each create our personal story around these events.
We give meaning to them — obviously, because this is how we can make sense of the world.
My writing journey is a story of constant belief update
The tale of how I managed to get where I am now as a writer is no different. It is a story which I tell myself so that I can make sense of my experience.
