What Makes You Feel Attracted To Him?

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Dear Woman,

I sincerely hope that the fact that I address you by your gender doesn’t offend you. You are biologically a woman, after all — carrying around your beautiful breasts, a fragile yet fertile vagina and the female energy that can be felt by others. Is there any shame in admitting that? I don’t think so. I think that these are qualities to be proud of.

You want to be a strong and independent one — and I get it. Why would any man dictate how you live or look like? Why should the patriarchal system reduce you to a beautiful object that, as a bonus, cares for the children and the household? Of course, it shouldn’t. Times have changed and your biology doesn’t define you anymore — at least, not as a primary factor.

Your consciousness and intent are much more important than your biology. You want your very own choices to be the most reliable predictors of your future. You want to — and should —be treated as equal to men.

But here comes the most important question: does “equal” mean “the same”?

You have surely heard of “benevolent sexism” and maybe you even rage whenever you spot it. A man opening the door for you or offering to help you carry shopping bags. Or notoriously insisting to pay for dinner. Social psychologists tell us that these behaviours are hardly less harmful…