Wow, Shelly, it sounds like you have gone through it, too. A lot of guilt and shame imposed on a young child for… what? For that she was being herself, playing, exploring and learning?
I am sorry to hear that you have had such a tough experience. And I hope that you also find the spiritual component you mentioned — if that’s really what you want. I am sure you can find it just in the form that is right for you. :)
All the best!